The Self-Led Dispatch Hey Reader, If the only time you feel strong is when you’re in control, you’re not. That line hit hard for a lot of guys this week. Because control feels safe — until it’s not. It works… right up until the moment your relationship, your team, or your sense of self starts slipping through the cracks. This week, I’ve been writing about what happens when men stop confusing control with leadership. True strength isn’t about dominance — it’s about presence. It’s built when...

The Self-Led Dispatch He didn’t need a speech. He needed presence. That moment taught me what real strength is. Ever notice how easy it is to perform strength instead of living it? For years, I thought being a man meant keeping it all together — work hard, provide, stay in control. But the truth is, strength without clarity is just noise. In my latest piece, I share a moment with my son that reminded me what presence really means — and why clarity always beats control. If you’ve ever felt...

The Self-Led Dispatch A reflection on manhood, purpose, and responsibility — and why nobody hands you a rite of passage. Hey Reader, Have you ever wondered if you’ll wake up ten years from now with regret? On the surface, life looks solid — career, family, success — but deep down, you know something’s missing. That’s the tension I explore in this week’s post: What It Really Means to Act Like a Man Today. I break down Pastor Joby Martin’s message on biblical manhood and share how it connects...